This is a touchy subject, but I felt the need to address this as it has been on my mind these past few months. I see too often the negative side effects that are infiltrating people's lives from feeling shame in regards to their home. Potential clients decide on not receiving help because they feel too stuck or think they can just get through it or deal by themselves. Almost EVERY single friend of mine says "don't judge me, my house is a mess" or some version of that when I come into their home. When we feel ashamed, usually we are a member of the perfection paralysis club or are just feeling downright unworthy.
I don't want to be associated with a "high-and-mighty" persona, nor do most Professional Organizers. We are all here to help you because we have been in your shoes at some point. We LOVE creating solutions for you and holding your hand through the process. We actually ENJOY this work and want to help as many people as possible because of our passion. There is nothing we haven't seen. If we actually do come across something we haven't seen, curiosity rules, not judgement. We are all waiting for YOU to step up and be vulnerable so we can guide you through ease and fun in order for you to reap the rewards you are searching for.
I really wanted to clear this up for anyone out there that might be holding back on seeking support. This is why I write blogs. This is why I have social media channels and do FREE Inspiration Sessions. To help YOU get clear on where you are, where you want to go and how to get there. If it's not with ME, let it be with someone else.
I believe in the magnitude of a courageous YES and a clear NO (TWEET THAT)
No one can do it alone. I actively support and promote my fellow Organizers, as not everyone will resonate with me. I believe in true teamwork and that there is p-l-e-n-t-y to go around. If you are in a sticky situation in your space, I encourage you to reach out sooner than later. To me, to a friend, to a family member, to any professional...honor yourself and your needs by receiving the support that is waiting for you. It's fall and the energy right now is perfect for this!
If you are in this position I have a few tips and pieces of advice:
• YOU ARE NOT ALONE & IT'S NORMAL TO FEEL THIS. Like I mentioned above, so many of my potential clients, friends, family and acquaintances are showing signs of shame and embarrassment regarding their home or even their emotional state. Imagine how many people in your own network are feeling just like you, maybe in a different way. We ALL feel this way sometimes, even professionals.
• ADDRESS YOUR FEELINGS. Ignoring it or making yourself busy as a distraction will only cover up these feelings and enable the habit to keep coming back. Also, productive avoidance will also delay the results and are basically a sign that you want to be distracted from this feeling. Only when you shed light on shadow emotions can they disappear or transition into positive ones.
• REACH OUT. When you ask for and receive support in any way (even if it is researching), your world will open up. Find the help you need. You will connect more, you will feel more fulfilled, you will be happier, you will think more clearly, the list goes on. In other words, It's worth it.
• BELIEVE YOU ARE WORTH IT. You deserve your desires and you deserve help. No one can know or be good at everything, that's why we all need each other. Most people want to help others, so the trick is finding the right fit of expertise and need. Know that you have a perfect fit waiting for you that will light you up with positive enthusiasm when you find it. Imagine what the other side of shame is. Think of your life or space without it and that is what's possible. Go easy on yourself if you are fragile, but know that your vulnerability is key to receiving what you need.
Cheers to spacious living,