"How the hell do I follow my heart?"

I’d like to share the stirrings of my own heart this week, in hopes you can find some inspiration for your own life. Maybe a sign to keep going or turn around. I just want to offer you my truth, trusting that it will serve you in some way.

I’m preparing for what is going to be a very powerful workshop and women’s circle live in the Bay Area on Friday, so my mind and heart are swirling around this topic. I’m tuned into the energy of the women who will attend, holding space for their transformation already while still healing and working through my own version of an Identity shift. It’s wild! This is my life. 

I’ve asked this question for many many years now…

How the hell do I follow my heart?

Ive never really come up with a succinct answer, it just happened through a series of very fortunate and conscious events. I first learned what obstacles were in the way, so I could make the process feel lighter. I then had to hone the habits that support my becoming. Now, as I continue to shift more into the divine feminine as a leader, mentor, coach, friend, daughter, sister and lover, I am now understanding the deep truths that are emerging that are quite scary for this superficial world we are used to. There is a power within me (and I believe within all of us women, especially those reading this) that is exquisitely grand, ready to roar and bestow love on women who need healing. My life is ready to expand, and my heart has been doing so lately.

I have been thinking back to how I pulled off so many successes and dreams, how I have led with heart. I’m reminiscing on how I overcame the weight of our inherited instruction and ingrained beliefs to play small as well as how painful that felt. I knew I was always meant for something greater than the status quo, but how could that happen when my heart was aching, when I had no clue how I was going to get there or what I even wanted? How the hell do I follow my heart?!

As with most processes, it all starts with release. We can’t pick up something new until we put down what we’re still holding onto. I visualized my heart being surrounded by overgrown weeds and tall walls of protection. I saw it as a scary place, an untrustworthy and dangerous place that if anyone got a glimpse of her (my heart), she would be toast. My unhappiness was a sign I was neglecting her, but I couldn’t find the courage to honor her. 

So, I found my way to her through my inner wisdom’s direction:

take down the walls of obligation

tumble the bricks of the past

cut the thorns of people pleasing

put out the fires of overwhelm

and let your heart breathe again.

give her space and love and attention and stillness.

care for the body holding her together.

listen to the subtle whispers,

honor the feelings she offers you

and find the flutterings of her desire

in the time she wants to show them to you.

And over time, with the right help, support, structures and boundless love, I learned how to do this. And I’m still learning how. Everyone is my teacher: the animals, my relationships, my clients, strangers, my mentors, celebrities, my family. We, as women, are Queens by birthright. We have the power to rule with heart or rule with hate. In order to heal this planet, it starts with us. Everyone is looking to us to set the example and have the courage to just START. So I am setting that example. I stumble sometimes, but I always come back to her. It is so worth it. 

If you live in the Bay Area or would like to come visit, read more about my event Living From The Heart. We have limited spots left and it would be an honor to have you. I know the the women who are feeling the calling are meant for monumental shifts in their life. I’m honored and grateful to be providing this opportunity for more women to know and understand what it takes to live, love and lead with heart. 

May your week, no matter the outcome of this crazy election, be full of heart. What stirs within her, love? Do share below in the comments. 

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What Makes or Breaks Success: Your Identity

Last week I shared about the importance of processing and how that serves you deeply in the success of your future. The week before I shared about the power of intentional living and how that is my #1 tool for success. There is a theme here, beauty, if you haven’t noticed…and there is a flow that I am creating that is taking you on a journey in a specific way that aligns with this specific time of year.

The one thing we all want is happiness. To me, what I hear underneath that is success and personal power…because how can we GET happiness without those two? Happiness is something we create from the inside that affects our experience on the outside. It’s a direct result of the transformation that occurs within our soul or a shift in our perception.

I know now that external circumstances have NOTHING to do with our happiness. I’ve been rich and I’ve been poor and everywhere in between. The happiest I’ve been was when I was the most poor because that forced me to focus on what REALLY mattered, who I really was and what I was actually capable of. I am in no way advocating that a low income = happiness, but what I know is that our low points offer so much perspective that have the potential to amplify our internal power which catapults us into a stronger, wiser, more resourced version of ourselves. 

Since part of my purpose is to support women in cultivating sustainable power, I have to address the big elephant in the room that really sets the tone for our level of happiness: Our Identity. 

What and who we identity with directly impacts our quality of life and happiness. 

Our identity determines our success.

If I had identified as “poor” or a big ole “victim” when I was broke (and I did lean towards those a few times), I wouldn’t have risen up to the level at which I needed to in order to create the future I was desiring, speaking spiritually, emotionally, mentally and physically. 

If I had identified as part of a “broken home” after my parents got divorced, I wouldn’t have been able to find true, meaningful love or experience the marriage I am in. 

If I had identified myself as fat, ugly or too big in physical terms, I wouldn’t have gained the confidence in myself that I have nor would I have the lavish experiences that I did with my girlfriends. 

See, there’s a difference between thinking some of these thing once in a while (normal) and identifying with the persona. The identity that we choose comes from what we think over and over as our internal dialog, which affects our belief system, who is really steering the ship (our subconscious). 

We all have blocks that are holding us back and I believe we all need to consistently re-evaluate what we are thinking, doing and being that can heal our past (old, outdated patterns + beliefs) and serve our future (inspiration, pleasure, action). 

I am by no means perfect in this area, but I am active when it comes to doing the work that is necessary to move past these outdated identities. I don’t ever want to hide behind my old persona’s like “party girl”, “dumb blonde”, “fat girl” or “poor”. I know they are not really true. I know I am way more than that. I also know that they were what I secretly identified with back in the day and totally kept me down because they crushed my self worth.

What persona are you secretly identifying with? 

What persona or identity would you LIKE to identify with? 

I honor the clarity that is coming up for you. Know that whatever is meant to come up, will. If it is coming up now, you are meant to be dealing with it now. You have the support, knowledge, know-how and resources to shift the identity that is steering your ship into one that creates success and sustains your happiness. 

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And, beautiful sister, if you live in the Bay Area, I would like to invite you to work through this with me, LIVE in person for a women’s circle and workshop on the magical 11/11/2016.

I am hosting this event with my soul-sister Dawn Bennet (a highly skilled bodyworker + homeopath) called LIVING FROM THE HEART which is built to assist you in releasing those old, outdated patterns, beliefs and stuck emotions and provide you with the tools, space and support to claim your new identity that will lead to your desired happiness and success. We have carefully curated a magical day to serve your highest evolution and to help you uncover your deepest truth + learn the power of intentional living. This is your chance to transform your identity into who you are meant to be, strengthen your sense of self and reconnect to your heart’s desires so you can create the quality of life you deserve.

We have a special early bird registration investment which is incredibly affordable for what you will receive. Or if you know of anyone that you’d like to invite, please help us spread the word.  ALL OF US NEED THIS! Thank you so much in advance. 

If you do not live nearby, we are hosting a live complimentary virtual women’s circle as a teaser to this event to answer questions and get you thinking about your identity on Wednesday October 26, 2016. You can RSVP here. 

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YOUR TURN!

With so much deep love for you, sister, to be on the journey with you, wherever you are at. I’d love to hear what came up for you after reading all of this. Where are you at with your identity and is there a gap in who you want to be? Please comment below and tell us.