Happy New Year!
What an adventure 2013 was for me. Full of lessons, setbacks, procrastinations, milestones, new journeys, growing pains and a lotta heart! It's truly an honor working with so many people that are desiring to raise their consciousness and create more abundant flow in their life. Still, negative thoughts and patterns do creep in for all of us, no matter how successful, organized, determined, motivated or happy we are. We think we need more time to get everything done, when in fact we don't. We just need to flip the priority switch so that every minute of our life is deliciously potent and meaningful. We are craving true alignment with our core values and sometimes we lose sight of all that. Let's not look at it as a constant battle, but rather an opportunity to re-evaluate. I want to share 4 steps to help you streamline your life which will make you feel more fulfilled and empowered. It's a guide to keep you focused on what's really important. These steps are crucial to begin with and will create much needed space within you, your home, your relationships and your activities so that organization (of time, thoughts or physical items) will be a piece of cake.
1. Start with Self Support
Become more aware of your needs because YES, they are important. Often, we put other people first, take on to much, procrastinate, do things we don't enjoy...then we wonder why our lives aren't what we expected. Let's remember that we actively created our life by making the choices we did. When we numb out pain or emotions, it's only creating resentment, fear or anger within us, prolonging the pain, frustration, apathy or judgement. Sometimes we don't numb out those things, but put them off, ignore or deny them altogether. When you neglect yourself, you will feel unsafe and unsupported, period. When you feel unsafe, you make irrational decisions that don't align with your core values. That doesn't sound like a conducive environment for growth and fulfillment, does it?
I recommend you make a list of your core values. What do you need to fill up your tank? I bet you can come up with some obvious zingers, but don't forget about the subtle ones that you might think you don't deserve. Give yourself permission to have those things. You deserve everything you want, and you're not a bad person for desiring them. Whatever creates more space, makes you feel more nourished, enhances your quality of life- are all positive needs to fight for. That's real support. Plus, you'll be setting a damn good example.
2. Release What No Longer Serves You
Now that you know what you need, it's time to release those patterns, beliefs or routines that are not serving you anymore. What's not worth having, doing or thinking about? What's in your life, thoughts or space that really shouldn't be there anymore? Excess clothes, shameful opinions, unhealthy habits? This could also be something you are NOT doing that you should. Have the courage to let go OR do it. It's a whole different life when you release toxic matters, because you can't move forward when you are still stuck with what's holding you back. With the removal of those blocks, you create space both in your mind and physical areas. In this transition you'll discover more time and energy to put into things you love and need. It will enable you to create systems that flow and therefore kick up the efficiency in your life. Commit to this process of letting go and you'll soon see that rainbow on the other side.
3. Prioritize Your Priorities
Once you release things that no longer serve you, flip that priority switch so it doesn't happen again. Delicious potency comes from actively choosing and engaging in priorities that align with your values. If you're feeling scattered, unmotivated or lost, most likely there is a disconnect which comes from misplaced priorities. Is there something holding you back from choosing your true priorities? Society expectations often have a strong hold on us. My mentor Christine calls it an Expectation Hangover. I love that. Get to know what your true priorities are so you can take steps to making time for them. Notice the word STEPS...work backwards from your goal or end point to achieve what you want to do or how you want to feel. This might mean saying no, standing up, strategizing different options and risking hurting others. It's worth it. Boundaries are healthy and reap so many rewards.
4. Plan For Success
So, you've got your massage scheduled, a letter of resignation to your dead-end job in the mail and a family vacation in the works...now what? Keep up the momentum by consistently contributing to your priorities, integrity and life. Set reminders, make flyers, read, search the web, get insight from loved ones, get what you need, give what you want to receive. Schedule time for activities that enrich and enhance your life. Set up your calendar to keep you accountable to the flow you want in your life, so it keeps you focused on your priorities. Make sure you SEE the reminders, too. 'Out of sight, out of mind' is your worst enemy. Make that effort to do whatever it takes to keep your eye on the prize. You want your garage organized? Enlist help from your family, make a game out of it, purge, hire an organizer, find tips and tricks to DIY. Any step toward your priorities is perfect. Know where you want to go and take action steps to get there. Map it out.
Our space is just a manifestation of what's going on inside of us. When WE are a mess, so is our space. Clean it up, let go, make time, give yourself a break. It all starts with you. Go on with your bad self!
I believe in you.