The Missing Link in Goal Setting + 4-Step Cure

Ever set big goals, plan meticulously and do the work but never quite get there? Ever have big dreams to be a certain way but never seem to experience it? Or perhaps you reach your goals, but not with much grace and you’re always left burnt out? Maybe you accomplish something, but the feeling is fleeting, like nothing ever really gets that much better? 

As a former workaholic, I remember pushing through every single day to get things done and accomplish my goals. Sometimes, I would reach them and just feel like “meh…what now?”  Or I felt like there was actually more to do. Most of the time, though, I didn’t reach my big goals or dreams. I fell short and beat myself up about it, thinking I needed to do more or that I needed to be better at the task at hand.

Then this led me to not setting goals anymore, because I just didn’t believe in myself, which perpetuated my negative feelings. This caused me to be lazy, apathetic and most commonly, extra-busy, so I could distract myself from these feelings. It was like I was either at one end of the spectrum or the other with no sense of confidence. 

Can you relate?

What was happening was I was out of balance with my power.

I felt inherently not good enough, trapped in shame and inadequacy. The only thing I knew how to do was work hard, so I kept going back to how society trained me in the pursuit of perfection. All of my focus was on outside tasks, deadlines, obligations and activities.

If we are in constant state of pushing through, working, producing and action mode, we most likely won’t achieve our goals, and if we do, it won’t be sustainable. The reason for this is because we are only using one side of ourselves, the mind. It’s also over-using the masculine-type qualities within us that will inevitably burn us out. The focus is too much on things outside of ourselves, thinking we can control them, but the reality is we can only control ourselves. 

We all have masculine and feminine qualities within each of us. They serve us when there is a balance between the two. When we are too much in our masculine, there is only doing which causes depletion. When we are only in our feminine, there is only being and nothing will get done. 

The missing piece in this puzzle is being more. Being who we would be after we have reached that goal and harnessing the feminine essence within us. By exploring, nurturing ourselves, playing, processing, relaxing and rejuvenating along with all the work we are doing. This gives us the space to integrate, feel more and let our body lead the way. 

The missing link is embodiment. 

Embodiment to me means the infusion of our beliefs or desires in our body or actions. It’s the union of our soul and body. It is the manifestation of our curiosities and who we are at our core. It means it’s in our bones, our being and our routines. It means it’s second nature and we can access it immediately. 

Goals are simply what we desire to experience in the future, so incorporating our bodies in planning for them is just as crucial as what we do with our mind to get there. Usually what we’re embodied in is what we value most. Our goals are the map to what we NEED to embody or grow in. In order for this to happen, we have to work with both the feminine and masculine aspects of ourselves. 

These days, I live an embodied life by devoting myself to what’s important to me, which always produces results beyond my imagination. This means I do everything I can with what I have, consistently, in honor of my desires and my values. I allow myself to feel and rest just as much as I take action. 

If you are feeling inadequate, stuck, exhausted or burned out with big ambition, here are my suggested 4 steps to becoming embodied:

1. Set your schedule. 
I’m sure you don’t have an issue scheduling your tasks, but make sure to set aside time for spacious flow, relaxing, playing and just being. I find that loose structure works better than rigid rules, so make sure what you plan out is doable for you. 

2. Get support. 
Often, we are so blinded by our ways and perceptions about ourselves that we don’t see how far we have come or how amazing we are. We need the reflections, validation and encouragement of others to increase our confidence and see ourselves from a different perspective. Motivation often follows being simply witnessed.

3. Practice. 
Use every conversation as a way to practice listening and speaking. Use every new week as an opportunity to balance out your actions with rest. Use every day to keep doing that which you desire by practicing both being and doing, especially when it’s uncomfortable. 

4. Be compassionate. 
The journey to embodiment isn’t necessarily an easy one. Know you are doing the best you can and that any roadblocks that pop up are only detours to your destiny. When we are able to think, speak and act with compassion and non-judgment, our vibration rises and we can access more parts of ourselves that have the answers we’re looking for. When we raise our vibration, we naturally attract the opportunities, love, support and willpower that we need.

I know if you are reading this, you’re here to do great things. Cheers to being a powerful, embodied human being. 

YOUR TURN! Tell me in the comments below what you would like to embody.

 

How Perspective Gives You Permission to Feel

Do you ever judge your emotions? Like you are feeling down and then feel like there is something wrong with you? Or you hold back your tears to not let someone else see you cry, because what will they think?!? Well, I grew up like this, and I have a feeling you can relate big time. I want to share with you some insight on how perspective changes everything. 

Right now we are experiencing some major shifts in the world here on earth, cosmically speaking. You know I follow all that jazz regularly, especially the moon cycles, because it really gives us a new perspective. When I read about how the planets are affecting us here on earth, I’m usually like “OHHHH, that explains it. Ok, I can get through it if everyone is going through it too.” That one shift of knowing that we are all going to go through the same kind of changes makes it 1. easier to deal with and 2. easier to understand why I am feeling what I’m feeling. 

What sends most people into a negative depressive spiral is feeling empty or alone, that no one understands them or that they are the only ones going through it. One thing I have learned is that whatever anyone is going through, someone else is going through it at the same time, and most people have gone through it at some point on some level. I don’t believe anyone is ever alone or the only one that knows how it feels, whatever “it” may be.  Common “It’s” can be fear, feelings of unworthiness, abuse, feeling not good enough, lack of motivation, feeling left out, feeling betrayed, etc. 

I believe we are all one, that we are all sharing the same human experience with the same emotions. The people that are in our life are either at different levels so they can support us or they are feeling the same so they can share in the feeling with us, making us feel connected and whole. Both of those scenarios are to give us perspective, just like the cosmos do, but on a more relatable level. 

How would we know who is going through what? Well, we share what we are going through, of course! Then let others respond, so we can hear their perspective and choose to move from there.

Most of us are taught and trained to hold our feelings back, suppress “ugly” emotions and push through the pain because they are deemed weak in society.  You will look like a sissy if you cry. There is something wrong with you if you can’t get it together and shape up. You can’t be trusted if you show emotion publicly. You won’t be taken seriously if you are really honest about how you feel. You won’t be successful if you let others see your emotions. If you’re sad, nobody wants to be around you.

FUCK THAT! 

I call bullshit on the patriarchy that is squashing the power of our femininity. This ain’t the 50’s anymore, honey, so let’s revolutionize our life experience by FEELING FULLY.

My good friend Kelley Cooper said it the best I’ve heard yet: “Feeling is a gift”.  It is a powerful and natural ability, especially in women. Feeling is part of our human experience, so why should we honor half of our feelings, the “good” ones and not the “bad”? And let’s just eliminate the label “good” and “bad” from emotional explanation. Feeling is feeling, it’s what we do! When we try to NOT do something that is inherently human, we block our own energy flow and therefore twist our fate in the process. What I mean by that is something automatically becomes stuck and unsustainable inside us once we deny our feelings on any level. IMMEDIATELY. On the contrary, energy flows again once our feelings and emotions are felt fully, activating our souls magnetism which produces opportunities we actually want.

Feeling is thriving. 

Learning how to feel fully can be scary so make sure you surround yourself with those that can support you. Share with them, so they CAN support you. When you share your feelings, you give others permission to feel theirs more. When you are in a safe space, you have permission to share freely. If you don’t share, there is no way of getting support and you might be doomed to go through the process alone, which you don’t have to! By communicating your feelings, you tap into your power and allow others to give you a new perspective from their experience. However, don’t share with anyone that you think won’t have your back.
 

Full disclosure: I cried 3x this week! And it was exhilarating at the same time as it was painful because I had major support through it. I moved through it in a flash because I let it all out and had the safety net of loved ones to bring me back to neutral.  I allowed myself to feel fully and be supported. It was definitely not comfortable. Now, I’m feeling unstoppable! It is a powerful feeling when you look back on this kind of experience.
 

True power is how much you can OWN your truth. Sometimes that is through massive action, energetic passion or helping people. Sometimes, though, it may be anger, fear or sadness. Neither is better than the other and both have their purpose to help us grow. When we own our truth, we take full responsibility, feel it fully and allow ourselves to experience it with respect to others. Owning our truth means we express while operating with boundaries and not pushing our truth onto others. They get to feel and respond how they want. This kind of mutual respect is sovereignty and It’s what I live for. 

So the next time you are feeling some of those “bad” emotions, love, take a beat and breathe into it more than you have been. Breathe into the fear, the sadness, the tears, the worry, the confusion and the doubt. Acknowledge it and let it move through you. Know that IT’S OK to feel these, sister. If you find a safe person or safe community to share with, even better. Acknowledgment is what will help the feeling dissolve. Then, see what manifests in your life soon after.

YOUR TURN!
I would LOVE to hear what hit home for you from this blog. Will you share with me in the comments below? 

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My Top 10 Most Powerful Journaling Exercises

Old definition of journaling: Anxiously writing every detail about what happened that day at school while crying.
New definition of journaling: Writing for the purpose of clarity, expansion and confidence. 

In the beginning of the Sisterhood Program that I lead, one of the self-care assignments was to start journaling. Well, turned out some of the ladies got triggered by this BIG TIME. So much resistance! It halted some of their efforts because most of them just didn’t want to do it. They said they have never been good at it. They didn’t like physically writing and had no clue what to journal about. 

I was honestly shocked, because I have always been so prone to journaling and have always been so excited to try new ways of doing it. I couldn’t imagine some women didn’t want to do this! It was a beautiful wake up call to open up my perspective as a leader. 

The weeks that followed were filled with baby steps from them and cheerleading from me. I was fascinated by their triggers to journal, so I remained curious. We finally dug deeper into some situations that held a negative experience when journaling in their past. It wasn’t fun because it was attached to a bad memory, so the subconscious belief was that they will be in pain if they journal.

Can you relate? If so, this post is for you!

Journaling has been the catalyst to discovering SO much about myself and life in general. I think I can speak for millions of women when I say that journaling should be one of the top self-care practices that we do. 

The purpose for journaling isn’t to just vent and write about your day. That’s how we do it when we are young because we just need to express so badly it would hurt without doing so. Now, we can use journaling as a tool to help expose parts of ourselves that are predominantly dormant or unconscious, that only get accessed when physically reflected back to us by something we create (writing words). We find clarity in who we are becoming, something our thoughts can’t put together by itself. We will understand real pieces of our identity, needs and purpose that help us put our life puzzle together rapidly. Even veteran journalers still journal and come up with new things to journal about or continue to use the tried and true methods that they know. It will always reveal something about ourselves that will enhance our life experience if we participate in this regularly. It’s just like meditation. People who have been meditation for decades don’t just stop because they got this, they keep going, deepening into the experience that brings them endless rewards.

Self discovery is really the only sustainable integration tactic. When we learn from others, we question it or try it out, if it resonates with us…we still search for proof. When we discover something on our own, we know it to be true and therefore it becomes embodied much easier. Journaling can facilitate this discovery. I am here to encourage you to begin, start again or continue journaling as a form of self development and growth. 

There is a strong connection between what the hand writes and the brain thinks. Even if you type on a computer, it is better than not journaling at all. Just start somewhere! I highly recommend the morning because that’s the sweet spot for brain activity, creativity and willpower. Our brain can perform and soak up information like #ladyboss at this time. For the sake of beginner or reluctant journalers, just pick any time of day, though.

The options for journaling are literally endless, but I can share some of the most eye-opening ways I have experienced journaling for me.

Here are my TOP 10 journaling exercises that will powerfully and positively impact your life.

Gratitude Journal

This is what started it all for me again after the long break from the musings of teenage drama. I wrote for 2 years straight, every single day (ok, I missed a few days) on what I was grateful for. I never repeated any of them and the list ranged from super small like a compliment my friend gave me to major life changes such as moving somewhere new.

 Brain Dump

Brain dumps are great first thing in the morning for reasons said above OR last thing at night to get things out of your head so it’s spacious again. There is major power in a simple brain dump. Set the timer for 3-5 minutes and just write anything and everything that you are thinking. 

 Ideal Scene Manifester

One of my all time favorite manifesting secrets is this journaling exercise. Do you want something you don’t have, like a new home, job or boyfriend? Write out what it would be like to have it in the most ideal circumstance. Use all 5 senses and as many descriptions as possible. What will you see driving to your new job? How will you talk about it/him to your friends? What do you see out the window? How does it/he make you feel? What do you do when you have this thing you don’t have yet? Things like that. Then read it everyday until it comes true. 

 Angry Letter

We don’t get many opportunities to release our anger in today’s society. When anger goes un-processed or gets suppressed, it turns into a health issue and major resentment. I love this method of releasing anger by writing to that person who made you SO mad, no matter how long it’s been. Write everything you feel, what they did to you and why it was unacceptable. Bonus points if you follow it up with the next exercise. Don’t give it to them, obviously. Keep it or burn it.

Forgiving Letter

Similarly to the angry letter, part of processing emotions mean coming back to neutral and cutting ties that may hold us energetically to another. Forgiving someone, especially if it’s ourselves, creates major freedom within us. Write this by starting off with what your experience was that you are forgiving them for. Tell them you forgive them for it, why and what you believe now. Bonus points if you thank them for being your teacher. You can keep it or give it to them, if you think they would be able to receive it. 

Love Letter from Future Self

I believe we can access our higher selves, the soul-part of us that is already in greatness, enlightenment and connected to the entire universe. If that seems too far fetched, this is a great exercise to start with because you are simply imagining your best self in the future giving yourself your own advice, love and encouragement. I guarantee you will feel more motivated and on purpose once you do this, and feel free to do this every year or so!

Idol Description

Sometimes we need to detach from ourselves in order to see who we truly want to be or how to move. By giving yourself the perspective of the person you most admire, respect and look up to, you understand the qualities that actually exist in you and can choose how to start living differently, in the way they have, in order to experience what you want. Success leaves clues, so this exercise helps you find the clues that will work for you. Note logistics like where they live, who their friends are, what events they attend and what they wear. Next, write down what their beliefs are, what their non-negotiables are in life and how they feel alive. 

What do I want my legacy to be?

Even if you aren’t destined or desire to be a multimillionaire entrepreneur or famous person, there is still a legacy that you will leave on this earth. From stay at home moms to transformational leaders, there is some kind of mark that you want to have on this world. What is it? What does it look like? How is the world changed for the better? This will help you really pinpoint not only your purpose in life, but it will also give you the greatest perspective ever to make empowering choices when you remember what you desire your legacy to be in every situation. 

 Intention Setting

Intentions are the beginning of manifestation. They are powerful beyond belief. I use this tool twice a month and now that I am well-versed in this process, I set intentions in my mind before I go anywhere. We create our reality from this place. Napoleon Hill said “What the mind can conceive, it can achieve.” Write down what you want as if it’s already happened and as many details that support it as possible to make it more real and palpable for you. 

 Freestyle during or right after any major transformation

When you are going through a major life transition, good or bad, there is a lot that is shifting inside of you that will be immensely helpful to look back on. During or soon after any big A-ha, retreats, personal development journeys, breakups, big moves, new endeavors, etc, write what you are feeling, thinking, experiencing and doing that is different than normal. This is the kind of thing that you will want to look back on when you are 80 years old. 

YOUR TURN!

What is YOUR favorite journaling exercise? Please share below what the most powerful thing you journal about is!

3 Common Sentences That Immediately Disempower You

Language is a powerful tool for success. Ever find yourself in a constant state of feeling defeated, stuck, apathetic or totally confused? If you are, you might find yourself complaining a lot. At the very least, I’m sure you can remember many times where you immediately regretted what you said. 

I hear certain phrases said consistently from my clients and each time it stings a little, but eventually turns to compassion because it’s what I used to say a lot, too. I would constantly complain and say these phrases in every conversation and then wonder why I always felt so stuck or didn’t come across as an expert. Once I started changing my language, my confidence increased, opportunities arose more and I felt powerful. I am so passionate about the magnitude of our words. You can tell how successful a person is by how they talk. I want you to be successful at accessing your highest potential in every situation by choosing words that empower you. 

Most of the time we are simply not thinking before we speak, which allows our subconscious mind to rule our lives and takes us out of our power. You see, our words directly impact our subconscious mind by reinforcing our belief in whatever we say. Words are vibration, allowing us to hear and feel the declaration instead of just thinking it. Our voice reverberates throughout our entire being, sending signals throughout the energy meridians of the body, encouraging our cells to perform a certain way.  What we say out loud will manifest if combined with what we think. Combine our thoughts with our words in a way that supports your goals or desires and you’ve got a power recipe for happiness! 

Before we can master our words, however, we must first start shifting our mindset and become aware of our language with ourselves and others so our thoughts can support us. There will be a transition time to eliminate these phrases from our life, because they have to integrate into our thinking. So, if you know you are saying some or all of these phrases a lot, not just rarely, I have found it best to simply bring awareness and compassion towards the habit without judgement first, so that we can create the space to choose something different. 

Check out these phrases that could make or break your life experience:

“I Don’t Know.”

By saying this phrase, you immediately block your truth from emerging. Usually it is a knee jerk reaction phrase that follows any new territory being explored in conversation or simply a complete lack in confidence. I hear this most, and said it this way often myself, after explaining or sharing a long winded rant. “This happened, I think this, maybe it’s right, I don’t know.” Or when asked a question, specifically about yourself, a quick “I don’t know” then a thought process or rant follows. This phrase makes you second guess yourself and undermines your authority on your authenticity. 

The reality is that you DO know. You just shared what you know or didn’t allow yourself to explore what you know. 

Even if you truly believe you do not know something, there is a better way to express this that puts you in a confident, powerful place. 

• You could say “I’m not sure yet” which implies that you are currently in search of what you KNOW you will find. 
• You could say “I’m not familiar with that” which implies curiosity and gives you a relatable personality along with a willingness to learn something new. 
• You could say “I’m still figuring it out” which implies that you are devoted to your truth and in action. 
• You could also say “let me think about that” which shows that you are in integrity and that your words are congruent with your thoughts, aka reliable and trustworthy. 

You see how much different the energy is around these above phrases than “I don’t know”? I Promise you will feel 10 times more confident if you eliminate this phrase from your life and choose the new phrases that I suggested. If you are just starting to do this and still find yourself saying “I don’t know” all the time, catch yourself in the moment and say immediately after “Oh, I mean I do know” and then choose to respond from there. 

“I Know.”

This phrase blocks connection and growth. It puts you on a pedestal above others, discrediting and disrespecting them while preventing any new wisdom to deepen within you. 

This is the opposite spectrum of “I don’t know.”. Holla to all my fellow recovering know-it-all’s out there! 

We all hear things that we have heard before and got something new out of it or we were reminded of it at the perfect time. It’s just like re-watching movies, re-reading books or re-taking courses. We know what’s going to happen, but we allow more entertainment, facts or lessons in for us to experience. 

Again, I’m talking about this phrase as a full sentence, not the start of a sentence. Of course share your knowledge starting with “I know…”, but try to avoid it as a complete statement. Instead, when someone tells you something that you have heard before or have learned in depth, choose one of these phrases to increase your confidence, open yourself up to new magic and strengthen a bond between you:

• “Thank you” acknowledges the person sharing. They chose to gift you this information, so honor that and you both will feel good. 
• “I agree” also acknowledges them and puts you both on equal platforms, allowing for a productive conversation to happen.
• “You’re right” deeply honors and respects the other person, increasing their confidence and desire to help you. 
• “I have found that to be true as well.” makes a good start to exploring more information and having a deep conversation. It allows you to share in the experience that the other person is having, connecting you both on a more meaningful level. If you are an introvert, this is a great statement to make because I know how much you desire deeper conversations.

“Sorry.”

One word sentences are tricky in general. Beyond “Yes.” and “No.” there aren’t really any productive one word phrases that are empowering. 

Not only does this one-word-phrase imply that you are holding something back and is most often a lie, but it can also block you from claiming your power. 

Referring to when this phrase is used as a snappy reaction, there is either a void of emotion or you are avoiding an emotion. You feel like something should be said to clear the air so you can move on. If you are void of emotion, real regret does not exist in the word and so the lie will likely trigger the other person internally or externally, which may cause more conflict. If you are avoiding an emotion, such as real regret because you can’t handle it or don’t want to confront the situation, you will experience resentment and your reputation for people pleasing will be remembered and taken advantage of.

If you want to express how sorry you really are, do it with dignity and grace by acknowledging the other person and the problem at hand, sharing what you regret clearly and what you now believe or want to do differently. A more meaningful (and professional) way of expressing that you are truly sorry is by saying “I apologize”. This sets you up for being in integrity and having heart-opening reconnection. 

Referring to when this phrase is used before or after sentences of over-explaining what you are doing and why, it shows your obvious lack of self-respect and self-confidence, disgraces your worth and shows people that you are untrustworthy and out of integrity. If you are constantly undermining your actions or words, it implies you are not sure of yourself, allowing yourself to be overpowered in the situation. It shows that you are weak. 

This looks like incessantly saying “sorry.” for any mundane action or for every opinion offered. Saying it after opening a door weird, awkwardly fumbling with their seat or after saying something that isn’t clear or accepted immediately. This is specifically focusing on those who say sorry for things that do not impact others in any way, where there really was no need for an apology.

I see this a lot with women in their attempts to explain what they are doing to show that it is ok, because underneath, they believe they are inherently wrong or not good enough. They are actually trying to convince themselves. It’s a common coping mechanism from a deep-seeded wound. If you start or end your explanations with “sorry.”, focus on exploring how you can begin to accept yourself more. Know that you never need to explain yourself and apologize for every action you do. if you really did do something that had an unfavorable consequence, utilize the above suggestions to portray your regret.

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Your turn!

Do you find yourself saying one or all of these phrases? I would love to know what came up for you after reading this. It's a safe space, and remember, what you share will help someone else, so comment below!

You can also email me, as I love to hear from readers.

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Equinox

Happy Spring Equinox! 

I wanted to pop into your inbox again today to offer one last opportunity to join the Self Care Sisterhood, but ALSO so share some really valuable information and inspiration that has been very present for me and my clients lately....so most likely you are experiencing the same. 

I've been posting a lot on Facebook & Instagram about the energy that is being felt around growing, transforming and being a part of something bigger, something more beautiful than just ourselves individually. Yes, our being is completely beautiful and perfect, even in its messiest form. However, our potential and magnificence is amplified in the presence of other beautiful beings on the same path. We as individuals can only see ourselves so far with our own eyes and sometimes our growth is inhibited by this limited perception.

Even in the most magnificent of creatures or the most advanced humans need community and collective energy to evolve beyond what they can create. Additionally, there is power in the empty space that happens just before new growth from the collective energy. This is the energy of the equinox! The in-between, the transition before emergence, the active yet quiet process of metamorphosis and the choices that are available that will take us to where we want to be. 

This is the place that usually gets overlooked (I know I have done it!). We want to fill that empty space because it's uncomfortable, with distractions and old habits that are no longer serving us. The common tendency is to keep pushing ourselves in the same way we have always done in hopes it will be different this time.

But what is important to remember, especially at these times like the equinox, is that when we can relax into the emptiness before the creation or the dawn before the daylight, we create space for ourselves to blossom and shine into what's next for us.

Where does community come into this? Well, without the generous eyes of those that are holding the vision for our greatest, most beautiful bloom yet, and for them to see our emptiness and witness this transformation, the beauty in the bloom (the opportunity) is missed. Without anyone to notice, appreciate and adore the flowers, not to mention bees to use them and pollenate, what purpose do they hold? The same beauty of the flowers and of the rainbow are meant to be a symbol for the beauty of community, and in my opinion, sisterhood. 

In a community of sisters, we are stronger. In sisterhood, we are brighter, wiser, more beautiful and more abundant. We can reflect to one another the beauty and the breakdown for the purpose of being FULLY EXPRESSED in our sacred femininity that is our birthright. 

So, in honor of Global Sisterhood Day, I offer you this wisdom and one last chance to join a community of sisters that will help you blossom, shine your colors and radiate your truth as the bright light that you are meant to be. I am encouraging you to plant your seeds in a community where you can bloom, whether that is this one, or another, because the world needs your unique brilliance, and sisterhood will help you access this. 

Together, we are better, and we say in unison, AHO, and so it is.


Take a look at the Self Care Sisterhood and if it is right for you, you can claim your spot NOW, as we start on TOMORROW. Feel free to respond back to this email to discuss any questions or concerns further. I am here to help you make the best decision for you.

To YOU, dear sister, and your ever-changing beautiful expression.

PS ~ I've been transforming, myself, deepening into leadership and my own coaching practice, which is why I'm so excited about this group program as a new facet to my business and expression. That being said, I am now more called to work one-on-one with women in the capacity of private, long term coaching. So, I have opened up just 3 private coaching spots in my roster for hardworking women who are ready to go through a metamorphosis into their Queenhood and greatness. If you, or someone you know is looking to experience deep transformation during their life transition by cultivating more of their feminine energy, go here for more details on how we can work together to creating your truest, most authentic expression of yourself, also known as your greatness. 

When was the last time you...

Happy Magical Monday sweets!

Let’s jump into a little reflection today…
 

When was the last you were truly seen for who you are? 

I mean really seen. Deeply honored and witnessed in your raw, real, authentic self through your expression and simple being. Have you ever experienced that? 

When was the last time you were given the spotlight to share what’s real for you, while other women actively listened and held space for your truth to emerge? 

When was the last time you experienced a wild synchronicity, a radical blessing, a welcomed clarity moment or a meaningful surprise that could only come from something greater than yourself? 

Sister, when was the last time, or was there ever a time, that you felt completely strong, fulfilled and balanced because of your daily committed routines focused on taking care of your mind, body and soul? 

Are you familiar with any of these realities? If not, what if I told you I could provide these things for you? Would you be interested? 

From these places mentioned above, we as women are able to THRIVE. We are able to access our power, our creativity, our unique gifts, the resources we need, new ideas, more energy and endless inspiration to create the life that we so badly want - the life we were destined for. I can say this confidently because I have created this myself. Not only that, but I have witnessed countless other sisters and mentors create this as well. 

What you focus on is what you will experience. Most of the time, as was the case for me back in the day, we focus on what went wrong, what could go wrong or what we didn’t like. We focus on what we didn’t get, what bothers us or complain about our annoyances. We sometimes hold ourselves back because there is simply not enough evidence of possibility and success in our world, so we stay stuck, lonely, isolated and depressed, or any form of these. We sometimes forget how amazing we are, so we stop trying. We sometimes feel we aren’t good enough, so we don’t take action. We sometimes put others first, so we don’t have to deal with confrontation. We sometimes act out or sabotage our own lives in order to feel the comfort of what we feel safe in that is not really serving us at all.  We can get caught up in drama, in lethargic routines, in the busyness trap or in complete denial. All of this perpetuates the reality that isn’t ideal. The reality that our life kinda sucks, that we always have to work hard to get what we want and only good things come to those who wait. 

I would like to offer you a new paradigm of living, darling. 

What about shifting your focus to your desires every single day, with the support of your divine messengers guiding your every move and cultivating your destiny effortlessly. Or focusing on the magical elements of your own body, your unique zone of genius and expression in order to amplify your daily experience, confidence and power. Even being able to see the positive side to all seemingly challenging situations, giving you the upper hand to harness the resources that are available and move through it with grace. 

The new paradigm of living abundantly, of feeling connected, powerful, well resourced, supported and safe is at your fingertips.  How much longer will you tolerate the shortcomings of your destiny? How much longer will you stay isolated and stuck in the same never-ending rut? How much longer will you deny your own magnificence?

There is something BETTER waiting for you, love. If you are reading this, I know you know this to be true. Even if you are successful, as deemed by society today, there is something more that is calling to you. There is a better reality that will feel more YOU, more relaxed, easier and more FUN. There is divine potential that is ingrained in your being, an awakening of the divine feminine within you. 

I’m not kidding you. This is real life and it can be yours too. I believe sisterhood heals, magic transforms and there is increased power when women come together for the same purpose. I believe caring for ourselves first will open up our world to even greater things than we can even imagine. I believe there are angels and spirit guides surrounding all of us, waiting for us to acknowledge their presence and harness their help so we can grow exponentially in this lifetime. I believe in the magnitude of consistency, community and connection. What we focus on is what we will experience.

So, I am offering you, a woman worthy of whatever she wants, the opportunity to join a sisterhood program for the purpose of increasing your quality of life, deepening into self care, exploring divine archetypes and expanding your heart with the support of an intimate community. Can you imagine what possibilities are on the other side of this? 

The program is 13 weeks and is called the Self Care Sisterhood. I am offering this because I have been immersed in this myself for the past 3 years. I know what transformation can occur when we drop our guard and let love in. This program focus is the cornerstone of prosperity, in my opinion. It is only because of the radical transformation that I have experienced that I can confidently provide this level of support and the solid container for other women to transform into their next level of living. 

I can provide you with structure to:

• focus on and practice self care each week that will enable you to take baby steps towards your becoming and blossoming, so nothing is overwhelming.
• learn about the healing power of archetypes and goddesses in order to access ancient parts of yourself that may be dormant.
• re-connect to yourself and your space for the purpose of increasing your abundance capacity and quality of life.
• deepen into sisterhood, to be seen, heard and learn the flow of giving and receiving that is our birthright.
• grow and move through your blocks through powerful tools and techniques used in our group coaching calls.
• explore and embody the physical elements in a unique and fun dance playshop that you can have the space to do on your own.

Is this what you desire? Please visit the Self Care Sisterhood website to claim your spot NOW, as we start on March 20th at 9:00am PST/ 12:00pm EST.

The magic awaits. Will you take my hand? 

Curious about the program and if it's a right fit for you? Schedule a complimentary one-on-one Inspiration Session with me below

Are you ready to surrender?

The energy of this new year has been intense for me and I'm guessing for a lot of you as well. January offered us a fresh new perspective on life, February propelled us into a new lunar cycle energy and March has got an even bigger and bolder plan. That's why I'm writing you today, love.

You see, if it weren't for the magic, support, sisterhood, and connections that I experienced these past few years, I would have been a complete WRECK right now. I wouldn't have the knowledge to be able to use simple tools to get through hard situations, or lean on my community while I'm raw and messy or even be able to identify why my life isn't going the way I want it to. 

What I experienced took me through the depths of my soul, uncovering my super powers and my shadow sides that I was able to navigate through because of the support that I invested in. The feelings, the beliefs, the magic, the synchronicities were ALL amplified and my development was on the fast track. The Heroine's journey isn't an easy one, but it's worth it, and I knew that. I remember having to have a LOT of faith and be able to let go of my usual technique of controlling situations/people/circumstances with all of my might. I remember resisting ALL of it, until I finally realized that it was all my birthright. I realized the whole undercurrent of all the training was self care, sisterhood and surrender. 

I wholeheartedly desire every woman to have this kind of support in some way. Can I ask you, love, what kind of support are you looking for right now? Answer that to yourself as you read this.

Today is a new moon, full of vibrant energy around the element fire as well as a solar eclipse! EEK! Can you feel it?! The energies are running wild in many directions. If you are ready to explore this moon deeper and participate in sisterhood for a magic ritual for new moon rituals, join me at over at Monthly New Moon Manifesting Ritual . It's free and it's all about what I just mentioned above. They are always powerful.

So, the moon and magic and all of that is definitely supportive, but what about those who want more? Through the Self Care Challenge, we were able to start new habits of caring for ourselves, which is the premiere form of support in my opinion. Almost 200 women were supported through the wisdom of each Self Care Ambassador so they could rest into their new practice with confidence. They had each other, a group of over 60 women in the private Facebook group to share what what they were going through. The ladies said it changed their LIFE! My mission felt complete...until I realized, as is common in the feminine energy, that I wanted MORE. That wasn't my final mission, as it turned out. The women needed more, too. The Self Care Sisterhood was born. 

I didn't even consider the magnitude and power of the platform I created until I was immersed in the reflections from the ladies. 5 minute videos for 13 days were changing women's lives?! AMAZING! Imagine what we could do with something bigger?! 

Using the 3 elements that we used in the Self Care Challenge: Sisterhood, Self Care and Divine Support, I created the Self Care Sisterhood for those who really want to deepen into all of that. Those who feel disconnected to themselves/their body, the ladies that are curious about archetypal healing work and women who NEED sisterhood so badly they can taste it. If this is YOU, right now, listen to this call, sister. We have ONE more spot left for a women who is an ALL IN YES to this solid, loving and incredible container of a program. 

In a nutshell, the Self Care Sisterhood runs for 13 magical weeks including weekly sacred sister circles, weekly self care focus/theme, monthly divine archetype audio recordings for healing, monthly coaching calls, surprise gifts, private forum for support in real time and access to my exclusive Elemental Alchemy playshop. But go HERE for more details. :) We start on March 20th, so there is only a week left to decide.

May this day, week and month bring you PLENTY of support, whether that is already present in your life or you are being asked to reach out and ask for it. SURRENDER, my darling, to what is possible for you through your feelings and your truth. Holding you all in this way today.

Many blessings of love,

What is magic?

(Listen to the audio version here)

Be honest…

How willing are you that everything goes right/works out? 
Are you contributing to your happiness or your suffering in your everyday life? 
How many blessings can you actually handle?
What does it mean to be in alignment and flow? 

These are the things I ponder and ask myself all the time. As my mentor Jeannine Yoder always says, to achieve great success you have to ask yourself more powerful questions. 

Some days are quite normal with the usual work, to do’s or interactions. The status quo. The comfort zone. The expected. 

Some days are bursting at the seams with magic and synchronicities infused in every moment. 

These days don’t just happen. They happen when we are aligned and in flow. What does that mean? They happen when we are awake. And by awake, I mean aware, conscious, open, relaxed, mentally alert in a calm way that only comes from our experience in moving through the fire (read: challenges). These kinds of days find us when they know we can cherish them. It’s like giving a homeless man a nice set of dishes… he can’t enjoy them nor would he want to. It’s not in his capability to use or like them, it’s not appropriate. The universe uses this concept, too. 

The great spirits, the gods, goddesses, guides, angels, our ancestors that are all watching over us and running the show “behind the scenes” as I like to say,  know what we need and when. 

They know when we really commit to something by our consistent actions. 
They know what we believe by what we think. 
They know what we’re capable of by how we treat others. 
They know our capacity to love by how we treat ourselves. 

They are standing by to give us WHATEVER we ask for through these ways, the good and the bad. That’s how we communicate with them, even if we think we aren’t. Therefore, they know when we need that extra boost, that one sentence that gets us through the day, the spark of inspiration or another example of how we are free. They give us only what we can handle. And, honey, when you increase your capacity for life, brace yourself for incredible happiness! 

I remember when I was in my early 20’s (which sounds incredibly weird to say as I still feel like I’m 21) I was partying it up with toxic relationships, endless drama, jaded interactions and workaholism. I came LAST on the list, for sure. Everything stayed the same for so long, even though I am an inherently positive person. I was still blind to my purpose and cultivating a destructive reality without realizing it. “Why was there always so much drama?” I was an excellent complainer. I was the first to talk shit. I would choose snobby entitlement and then disconnect for appearance’s sake. My reputation was both totally unimportant so I could “do what I wanted” and highly elusive so I wouldn’t have to be vulnerable. I did have some great friends who I’m still friends with (gotta love those who you make it to the other side with you, amiright?) and I also had a lot of “best friends” that simply just mirrored my state of mind at the time who quickly vanished at the point of any truth clarification or change of behavior. I was always worried for myself, that something wasn’t right or someone was out to get me. I was always tired, broke, careless, dumb and reckless with an expectation hangover (and a real hangover). I was always wondering “when will it be my turn?” or “why can’t I have the life that some people have?” or even “why don’t they like me more/why am I not important to them as they are to me?”. Yea, #realtalk.

Now, I have to stop myself from saying “I can’t believe this is happening to me” (but in a positive way, like I almost don’t believe I deserve something so wonderful) or “I can’t believe I have this.”  Those words are not serving my future or my confidence, so I have to remind myself to change my language to support more of the experiences that I am calling in. The point is, that with all my efforts, I am rewarded greatly, as are all my fellow sisters on this path. The in-your-face-wildest-dreams-blessings are never-ending instead of non-existent. I now have to learn to cherish things even more. My capacity for happiness, love, luxury, spaciousness, pleasure is increasing. You would think this is an easy feat! I beg to differ…

We are all trained to be and act a certain way or to believe something limited, which holds us back. This is what’s so hard to shift. These are things like complaining, fighting, rudeness, inconsideration, gossip, settling, holding back, small-town-syndrome or giving up. But it’s important to remember that what we learned is not real, and this is part of what I’m explaining today. What we learned to do or be is not the magic. The magic is in how we move away from those things. 

Magic is what blessings are, it is what brings our dreams to life. Magic can be achieving that long-time goal, or changing that behavior/habit. Magic can also be the sweet synchronicities that surprise and delight us unexpectedly. The little things that add up and change your whole perspective. The acts of kindness or the instant manifestation or even feeling deeply loved. Recognizing more beauty in nature, feeling your senses heighten, receiving gifts, things working out, getting respect, feeling heard, knowing you are making a difference in someone else’s life. REVEL IN THIS MAGIC, MY DARLING. 

Our magic is not in the status quo, the comfort zone or the expected. Our magic is what happens when we open up and allow our full expression to emerge. Our magic is our unique zone of genius, our authentic brilliance as my friend calls it, our greatness. Magic flocks to those in their greatness. 

I show up differently than back then. I ask for more from myself and others and I give more because I’m full more of the time. The quality of my work and my being has upleveled, and nowI am being shown the responsibilities of that new level. Mainly, to enjoy more. That is what I am being guided towards when I asked the questions from the beginning. That’s how I got to this place. By believing the magic is real and noticing it everywhere. By breathing through those silly questions of if I deserve it or not. By expressing myself and following the lead of my intuition. But most of all, by taking care of myself. 

Can you imagine literally EVERYTHING going right or exceeding your expectations? 

Here are some small examples... 

hearing ALL of your favorite songs on the radio
people moving out of the way for you on the road…
being handed a flower because your beautiful by a stranger…
thinking about something you want and it appearing right before your eyes for FREE….
receiving discount after discount or free items when you shop…
more efficient time management that didn’t have to be managed, but just happened by the flow of the day….
being taken to a random restaurant and eating one of the best meals of your life….
being bought a free meal at said restaurant…
money being LOOSE in the budget….
finding money or something you’ve been searching for forever….
winning free things that will make your life easier…
being asked to be on an important panel because of your expertise….
being the receiver of a random act of kindness…
giving an act of kindness with a smile and bright joy….
feeling so relaxed and connected to your loved ones like you never have before…
being supported by your mentors…

I mean, I could really go on and on….

But do you see what I mean? How much of that could you handle in ONE day? Could you really receive so much blessing? I have found that It’s easier to block blessings than to receive them, so that is why I am writing you today. 

All of that happened to my friend and I the other day. It happened because I can see how much I’ve been taking care of myself more than ever. Hindsight is a powerful tool. Everything feels right and aligned, and I know it’s not just because, it’s not just a “good day”. This feeling and alignment comes from MY actions, my commitments of daily ritual, daily connection and daily focus. I am DOING a lot, but most of it is BECAUSE of my new being. It is because I am able to care for myself in a deeper way and therefore open up the pathways in my body to experience bigger things. 

This is similar to the concept of “the rich get richer and poor get poorer”. The energy that we focus on is what we experience. I used to focus on drama, partying, pleasing others or twisted affection. I got what I focused on. Life never seemed to get better, it just got different in the same way. My now husband and his family was a life saver, I’ll tell ya! Once I met him, though he wasn’t really into anything I’m saying here today, but was just a damn good man in the making, who made me show up better for myself and the world. The rest is history. 

Now, as I mentioned, I am constantly surrounded by blessings of wild caliber. I am living my dream life by my own standards. I am hearing myself say “my dream came true” every two months, as cheesy as it sounds. Greatness is a non-negotiable for me now. There is no going back to mediocracy. Everyone I am around upholds this for me, because I called them in my life for that reason. The magic just keeps getting bigger. This is all possible for you, too, and it’s part of MY dream that it comes true for you as well. 

DISCLAIMER: This is not without the hard days. We don’t have to be on all the time. There will be sleepless nights or bad decisions or burn out every now and then. The good days happen to me more because of how I move myself OUT of these dark places.

What I know is that success is our birthright. I know we as women need to choose ourselves more to experience what we want. I know that every time we sacrifice ourselves with a win/lose situation or putting others first that our experience shortly after will be devastating. When we say YES to ourselves by putting ourselves first, expressing ourselves unapologetically and enjoying the moments more, we find happiness, which will usually come in a different way you are expecting. That’s the angels, you see. They know better in the other realm. There’s more magic than our human brains can comprehend. RECEIVE IT, dear one. It’s really there. 

Notice the signs. 
Notice how you show up. 
Change your approach. 
Open up your perspective. 
Increase your awareness of the moment. 
Receive it. 
Receive. 
Soften and receive. 
I promise you it’s worth it. 

What magic do you see right now? It’s waiting for you to experience it- that’s why it exists!

Cheers to the magic within you 

Invitation:
Would you like to experience all of this magic yourself? Sign up for the Self Care Challenge! This is your opportunity to finally put yourself first and practice what it takes to be magical. Valentines Day is coming up…we gotta get cozy with ourselves before getting cozy with someone else. Join the Self Care Revolution! http://eepurl.com/bMv1Ef

Self Care Challenge

As you may or may not know, self care has been a huge, enormous lesson for me in terms of growth and success. I come from the norm of pushing too hard and putting others first. However, once I harnessed the whole concept of self care, everything opened up.

I started a business that was making money, but only as I immersed myself in daily ritual, consistent spa time and instilled spaciousness in my schedule did I truly find my business being a success. 

I've been married for almost 10 years, but I've learned that only when I take the time away from him and put myself first do I experience the benefits and intimacy between us. 

I've had countless friends, but only when I set healthy boundaries, got enough alone time and honor my needs did I attract incredible women into my life. 

This is my biggest desire for others and part of my mission: to help women use the power of self care to live in their purpose, increase their success and truly thrive in their sacred feminine! 

That's why I created the Self Care Challenge! We start February 1st and go for 13 days, a sacred feminine number, leading up to (the anticipated or dreaded) Valentines Day. The theme is “to get cozy with yourself before you can get cozy with someone else” because, let’s face it…Vday has a twisted rep.

I believe that only when we as women are full, we can experience a partner intimately in pleasure, but not the other way around.
I believe that when our tank is full, only then can we care for others with our unique gifts.
I also believe that real success is rooted in self care. 

Self care looks different for everyone, we all need different amounts, and usually more than we think.

So, in honor of many different perspectives on what constitutes as "full" and "self care", I will feature a new Self Care Ambassador each day that includes a video of them answering this one question: What has been your biggest challenge with self care that has had the biggest impact on your life once you overcame that challenge and why?


This challenge is intended to raise the awareness around self care and inspire women to understand how important it is and how easy it can be. I know first hand how much of a stretch putting ourselves first is.

Do you feel the same? Or have you come from this experience as well? I would love for you to join us! More women need to know. They need to hear YOUR experience. CLICK HERE to sign up.


What kind of self care do you love? comment below!

Magic and Selfcare

Be honest…

How willing are you that everything goes right/works out? 
Are you contributing to your happiness or your suffering in your everyday life? 
How many blessings can you actually handle?
What does it mean to be in alignment and flow? 

These are the things I ponder and ask myself all the time. As my mentorJeannine Yoder always says, to achieve great success you have to ask yourself more powerful questions. 

Some days are quite normal with the usual work, to do’s or interactions. The status quo. The comfort zone. The expected. 

Some days are bursting at the seams with magic and synchronicities infused in every moment. 
 

These days don’t just happen. They happen when we are aligned and in flow. What does that mean? They happen when we are awake. And by awake, I mean aware, conscious, open, relaxed, mentally alert in a calm way that only comes from our experience in moving through the fire (read: challenges). These kinds of days find us when they know we can cherish them. It’s like giving a homeless man a nice set of dishes… he can’t enjoy them nor would he want to. It’s not in his capability to use or like them, it’s not appropriate. The universe uses this concept, too. 


The great spirits, the gods, goddesses, guides, angels, our ancestors that are all watching over us and running the show “behind the scenes” as I like to say,  know what we need and when. 

They know when we really commit to something by our consistent actions. 
They know what we believe by what we think. 
They know what we’re capable of by how we treat others. 
They know our capacity to love by how we treat ourselves. 

They are standing by to give us WHATEVER we ask for through these ways, the good and the bad. That’s how we communicate with them, even if we think we aren’t. Therefore, they know when we need that extra boost, that one sentence that gets us through the day, the spark of inspiration or another example of how we are free. They give us only what we can handle. And, honey, when you increase your capacity for life, brace yourself for incredible happiness! 

I remember when I was in my early 20’s (which sounds incredibly weird to say as I still feel like I’m 21) I was partying it up with toxic relationships, endless drama, jaded interactions and workaholism. I came LAST on the list, for sure. Everything stayed the same for so long, even though I am an inherently positive person. I was still blind to my purpose and cultivating a destructive reality without realizing it. “Why was there always so much drama?” I was an excellent complainer. I was the first to talk shit. I would choose snobby entitlement and then disconnect for appearance’s sake. My reputation was both totally unimportant so I could “do what I wanted” and highly elusive so I wouldn’t have to be vulnerable. I did have some great friends who I’m still friends with (gotta love those who you make it to the other side with you, amiright?) and I also had a lot of “best friends” that simply just mirrored my state of mind at the time who quickly vanished at the point of any truth clarification or change of behavior. I was always worried for myself, that something wasn’t right or someone was out to get me. I was always tired, broke, careless, dumb and reckless with an expectation hangover (and a real hangover). I was always wondering “when will it be my turn?” or “why can’t I have the life that some people have?” or even “why don’t they like me more/why am I not important to them as they are to me?”. Yea, #realtalk.

Now, I have to stop myself from saying “I can’t believe this is happening to me” (but in a positive way, like I almost don’t believe I deserve something so wonderful) or “I can’t believe I have this.”  Those words are not serving my future or my confidence, so I have to remind myself to change my language to support more of the experiences that I am calling in. The point is, that with all my efforts, I am rewarded greatly, as are all my fellow sisters on this path. The in-your-face-wildest-dreams-blessings are never-ending instead of non-existent. I now have to learn to cherish things even more. My capacity for happiness, love, luxury, spaciousness, pleasure is increasing. You would think this is an easy feat! I beg to differ…

We are all trained to be and act a certain way or to believe something limited, which holds us back. This is what’s so hard to shift. These are things like complaining, fighting, rudeness, inconsideration, gossip, settling, holding back, small-town-syndrome or giving up. But it’s important to remember that what we learned is not real, and this is part of what I’m explaining today. What we learned to do or be is not the magic. The magic is in how we move away from those things.

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